Relationship conflict-management and mediation

Interpersonal conflicts can take many forms.

Our human relationships involve conflicts. If not, it’s usually not a deep and reciprocal relationship. Two people are rarely able to always be in complete harmony with each other. Sometimes, needs, desires, and interests conflict between the parties, leading to dissonance and conflict. But conflict is not necessarily a “bad” negative state. Rather, it is a constructive opportunity for development for both the relationship and the parties. Relationship mediation can help turn a destructive tension into a deep learning experience so that this process can deepen the relationship.

Discover how facilitated mediation can help resolve disputes and transform your relationships.

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conflictmanagement and mediation

By their nature, all conflicts are emotional in nature. This is exponentially true for relationship conflicts. A lot is at risk for those who bravely choose to take up their vulnerability by taking on it and sharing their emotional and physical lives with each other. Managing conflicts between couples is a sensitive and complex task, the success of which depends on common life and its important human relationships: family and friends. The focus of the process of relationship conflict management is communication and transformation: in systematic mediation, the primary step is to create a safe space where the parties can calm down and open up to an honest, confidential conversation in which they can share their feelings, needs, and fears. In the practice of compassionate communication, the way the parties perceive and understand the other and how they relate to each other systematically changes. Secure, open, and self-identity communication is key to transforming personal relationships and managing relationship conflicts.

Meetings can take place online or offline.

If you would like to change your relationship status, please contact me.

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Relationship conflict-management for friends and family

As in intimate partnerships, emotional tension can increase in families and close friendships. In personal relationships, people are connected in so many strands. They have a solid foundation, a history and an inevitable future, the outcome of which depends on the quality of the relationships. But as we already know, conflicts are normal and natural in human relationships. In tense situations, a skilled facilitator can go a long way in harmonizing circles of friends and family by creating a retention space for them where stakeholders can honestly share their needs and feelings. Being the practice of systematic relationship mediation and assertive communication, close relationships can become even closer. Through mediation, conflict brings loved ones closer together, not tears them apart.

Meetings can take place online or offline.

If you want to harmonize the important relationships in your life, get in touch with me.

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Mediation for business partners

Our financial security is based on balanced financial success, which also affects our families and lifestyles. A business partnership is like a marriage: emotionally heated conflicts can arise, which can also affect the business processes of the joint venture and the financial security of its members. There are partners who do not give up even in such situations. Their goal is nothing more than to maintain their business association, but for some reason, they cannot effectively lead their relationship through the crisis in their own right. Some people decide to split up but cannot agree on the terms for ending their joint venture. Regardless of the ultimate goals, no one wants to leave a partnership with a bad taste, a sense of loss, if there is an opportunity for a peaceful, fair, and effective conclusion. A trained and empathetic mediator is able to interpret the specific context of the conflict and understand its unique dynamics, thus effectively facilitating a process of joint problem-solving and agreement between business partners. Mutual listening, respect and equality of the parties are key in mediation. However, a successful negotiation can not only result in a mutually beneficial agreement, but can also bring emotional relief to stakeholders.

Meetings can take place online or offline.

If you would like to end your association with a mutually beneficial agreement, please contact me.

Why is relationship mediation essential?

For many people, conflicts in personal relationships are a private matter. This approach can lead, after a while, to the tension between the parties becoming powerful and the destructive processes becoming irreversible. In such situations, it is difficult to find a long-term solution without a neutral and objective mirror that can clearly reflect perspectives, emotions, and dynamics.

Unfortunately, too many relationships are outraged because the concept of conscious and creative conflict resolution is not yet widespread in our culture, so too many important and deep human relationships are severed forever, or at least for a while. It is accepted that those involved fight each other, but in such cases it is not the goal to look behind the symptoms and work on solving real problems. Unresolved conflicts thus generate even more conflict in the relationship and, of course, in its narrower and wider environment.

But the good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way.

A trained mediator is like a neutral and trusting partner: it can help a lot in deeply resolving relationship conflicts and mastering conflict management techniques. At first, it may seem unusual to involve a professional in dealing with our personal conflict, but on second thought, it makes sense. Here are three arguments in favor of systemic relationship mediation.

A better understanding of the problem

When we are in conflict with a person who is important to us, perhaps a family member, we may be afraid to see or openly state what the whole truth is, because it may worsen the situation and eventually we may lose another. If, on the other hand, there is a lack of peaceful presence, openness and courage, only the struggle on the surface can intensify and the real underlying problem remains unresolved.

In a conflict management process with a neutral and objective mediator, it is much easier for participants to open up and communicate their truth. The parties need not be afraid of judgments, advice and retaliation, they can safely share what is within them. Simply modeled: when the mediator is in the room, his presence and communication mediate peace and objectivity to the parties during the facilitation, which helps to effectively explore and resolve the problem causing the conflict.

Better solution strategy

Most people are not experts in conflict management, which means that they unconsciously employ entrenched conflict management schemes, i.e., behavioral strategies, which unfortunately fail to bring about the desired peace and do not provide real solutions. No matter what dysfunctional strategy someone employs in a conflict — attack or avoidance, or something else — they only result in even more problems and a deeper gap between those involved.

Relationship conflict-management helps because the mediator is professionally familiar with the methods and strategies that can result in a long-term solution. Participants can see the root of the problem and design solutions that would have been previously unthinkable for them.

Mastering this systemic conflict-, and problem-solving strategy will enable the parties to resolve conflicts in their lives peacefully and effectively.

 

There is no accusation or attack.

Another reason why it is often not possible to resolve relationship conflicts without outside help is that in such tense situations, one party experiences being accused and the other is attacked.

When this dynamic works, the problem becomes even more personal and the solution even more difficult.

 

In the space of relationship mediation, there is no room for accusation or attack, only pure self-communication. The mediator focuses on the problem and how to solve it, not on who is at fault for the situation. The goal is for the facilitation to proceed without conflict so that no one feels bad.

Overall, systemic relationship conflict-management with mediation is useful because it works. If you are having difficulty resolving a conflict with your partner, a family member, friend, co-worker, partner, or possibly another important person in your life, it may be a wise decision to involve a mediator in the peace process.

The next step...

Contact me, and we will discuss how I can help you as a mediator to resolve your dispute and/or harmonize your relationship.